Many years ago I was having chicken rice at a hawker centre. I paused from eating and a man came over to
my table. He thought that I had completed
my meal and asked if he could have the rest of my rice and chicken. My plate was messy and I was not used to
giving food that I had eaten to others. I told him I would get him a meal. I remembered someone taught me about giving
my best gift to someone as though I’m the receiver. As a receiver, we always
wanted to receive the best gift. I
think the best part of a chicken is drum stick so I bought for the
stranger. It did not cost me much. But I had this satisfying and happy feeling
that I had helped someone in need.
Make Room in our Hearts
I am now distracted and occupied by the busyness and demand of live that
I missed seeing the needy one. I learnt
that showing hospitality is reciprocate of God’s love to us. It is a way of life we need to live out. It’s a duty we need to do. Hospitality can be cultivated over a
life-time if we make room in our heart.
Hearts can be enlarged by praying that God will give us eyes to see the
opportunities around us, and by putting ourselves in places where we are likely
to encounter strangers in need of welcome.
We are not excused from showing hospitality with our limited resources
or space to host a stranger. I pray that
my heart will be open to people to connect and share whatever I could
provide. Be it a prayer, a warm smile or
comfort to the discouraged one.
I enjoy eating alone during work.
I have the flexibility to lunch at any time so this give me an excuse to
eat alone as I usually avoid lunch crowd.
I also struggle with the idea that my colleague will find me bore as a quiet
companion. I have to think of possible
conversation during meal as I think it is rude to be silent when sharing a
meal. I have the freedom to make choices
as where to eat and what to eat. I am
now convicted that I should not eat alone too often. I should have shared meal
with others for eating is for sanity to promote physical, social and emotion healthy. When I eat with someone, it will reduce
social isolation and improve physical mental health.
Present in Body But Absent In Spirit
I stay with my parents and though we stay under the same roof, I think
I have often neglected their basic need - to engage in a conversation or meal with
undivided attention. When I dine with them, I am always occupied and
preoccupied with something or playing with my hand phone. I have no room for them. I am present
physically in body but absent in spirit. I am sure they feel insignificant. Sometime when they talked to me, I really
don’t know what they are saying. Through
this lesson, I am convinced that I should make space for them. Last week, I had lunch with my mum. I deliberately left my hand phone at
home. It was a good meal as I talked and
responded to my mum. I also noticed new changes
in the food court which I have missed out.
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ReplyDeleteGood morning Eileen, we can call ourselves the blessed one. Not only being blessed with the opportunity to attend Hospitality course, your mum is directly blessed because we are more aware of what is proper to be done knowing that hospitality is a command by God. On the other hand, I see how God wanted to bless you mum by sending you to this course. Cheers!
ReplyDeleteYes, I agree with you :) Thanks for sharing
ReplyDeleteOur hospitality class reminds us how we have neglected even our own family but is it a good reminder that made us think and do something about it. I am happy that you had that great meal with your mum.
ReplyDelete"Making a habit of hospitality must be deliberate and intentionally." - It is a challenge that will be worth every sweat from us. Amen
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing. Agree on the need to deliberately practice hospitality to others
ReplyDelete"Making a habit of hospitality must be deliberate and intentionally." - Yes this is very true :) I also agree with the parents portion. Sometimes it is easy to listen but not be present / presence. Jiayou Eileen!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing
ReplyDelete"Making a habit of hospitality must be deliberate and intentionally." - powerful statement! At this point, we must definitely be deliberate about it, until it becomes a second skin. I also appreciate the reminder about being present and attentive to the other person, especially during meals. Technology makes us good consumers but poor communicators. May we be reminded to stop being near-sighted, only looking at our devices, and be far-sighted to observe our surroundings, our environment, our guests and their needs.
ReplyDeleteI believe the handphone has the potential power to break down face-to-face communications. Casey and I too have the bad habit of looking at/playing with our phones instead of looking at each other when we are eating. It's time to make some changes to what happens at the table. Thanks for the reminder.
ReplyDeleteyeah be encourage eat more with friends :)
ReplyDeleteIt's a good to give our loved ones undivided attention when we're sharing our meals together. I'm sometimes guilty of not doing that. Let's 加油 together! When are we sharing a meal together ah? Heh
ReplyDeleteAnytime... juz pin me.
Deletethanks for sharing :) indeed meal times are important but so often overlooked!
ReplyDelete"Present in the body, absent in spirit". I thought sis Davina really did a great job in coming up with this. Your sharing reminded me that I have been guilty of this many times too, especially when I am with people who talk about things that don't interest me. I've realised it's terribly rude. Thanks for your sharing:)
ReplyDeleteHullo Eileen! Yes I feel it is sometimes hardest to show hospitality to our family haha.
ReplyDeleteI also like to eat alone and often eat lunch at timings which would not be crowded. This class has taught me the lesson of having shared meals to connect with people. There will be times to eat alone and also times to eat with people. I must intentionally eat with people so I can hear their life stories and even pray for them.
ReplyDeleteHi Eileen,
ReplyDeleteI agreed we need to get out of our comfort zone and give space to others. It not easy nevertheless is a new journey for us.
Jia you
Thank you Eileen for sharing...I also have the same problem of not extending hospitality to my parents. We stay under the same roof, we barely have good conversations, so this modules help me remind myself constantly that i still need to show hospitality to the closest to me:)
ReplyDeleteThanks for the positive testimony about buying a meal for the stranger. Guess that we all neglect our families because we are so used to them. I also need to be more present with my family and make space for them.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing
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ReplyDelete"Making a habit of hospitality must be deliberate and intentionally." Agree, otherwise we are still strangers crossing each other path.
Hospitality doesn’t come just because we have a better understanding of what it is. Hospitality follows closely behind its friend humility. I remember C.S. Lewis once said, “Humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less.” And that may be our biggest barrier to hospitality. We are so full of ourselves that there’s no room to welcome anyone else.
ReplyDeleteWe should be saying, “I don’t know you or understand you but I’m willing to empty my heart just a little of myself and welcome you in”. Take care and blessings.
Thank you that it is a good reminder from you that we need to practise hospitality with all our strength, all our minds, all our hearts. No hypocrisy at all.
ReplyDeleteHi Eileen, I can see that you make a deliberate effort to practice hospitality to strangers as well as to family members. Indeed we have to make room in our hearts for hospitality. May God bless you in your relationships with others!
ReplyDeleteEileen, it was great to be in the same group as you again! I also agree that hospitality starts with making that room in our hearts. Practice makes perfect and lets continue to encourage one another as we make hospitality a part of our lives......
ReplyDeleteWriting second time cos don't know wher my first comment goes ! haha . Whenever i meet you , i get reminded your tasty salad made for the ethics class. Thanks for practicing Hospitality before this module itself !
ReplyDeleteYes i agree about the presence of the spirit as well especially to our loved and closed ones :)
Thanks for the fruitful sharing just like your fruit salad !